Dating an old family friend
After the trip, his text messages became shorter and the phone calls stopped.
I asked him to hang out one weekend, and he said he was busy but didn’t initiate another hangout.
Don’t assume someone is going to be committed unless you’ve talked about it.
It’s also easy to build up a fantasy of what someone is like when you’re long distance.
Her take: “I was set up with a family friend, and we really hit it off.
After two months, I invited him on a preplanned trip with friends, but he declined.
“The more there’s courtship and the guy is pursuing a woman he’s interested in, the more powerful the reward is of actually being with that person is.I was doing things for him like baking cookies, redecorating his place, and having lots of sex, but I found out he had no intention of commitment at all.” -Kate, 28.Expert take: A lot of guys have two categories of women they’re dating: the women they just want to have sex with and the women they’re interested in having long-term relationships with, Kerner says.If a guy gets everything up front, it’s quite possible his interest and that reward mechanism aren’t going to kick into gear,” Kerner explains.Men want a woman who needs them and asks things of them, Davis adds.